tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1852496254093254902.post7031812711353531008..comments2023-10-29T08:39:53.924-07:00Comments on Wanderer's Daughter: Just because she looks good in stripes...Maiahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17149615417507090988noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1852496254093254902.post-3143031933144952462008-10-13T22:49:00.000-07:002008-10-13T22:49:00.000-07:00btw it was me writing here, not Mike. When I said ...btw it was me writing here, not Mike. When I said "Maia" I was talking about the "other" Maia, who lives on the east coast. I know, confusing!Maiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17149615417507090988noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1852496254093254902.post-25827287426030990062008-10-13T19:02:00.000-07:002008-10-13T19:02:00.000-07:00I've been hooked on your blog for several weeks no...I've been hooked on your blog for several weeks now but I don't think I've commented before. Flynn is breathtaking and it's obvious she is woven into your family already. In all of her pictures she looks so at ease and peaceful. That's a beautiful thing. I will be thinking of you all tomorrow. <BR/><BR/> Gin =)Virginiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17169523852100305941noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1852496254093254902.post-12312437496831875992008-10-13T18:55:00.000-07:002008-10-13T18:55:00.000-07:00QQ has an amazing spirit which she was likely born...QQ has an amazing spirit which she was likely born with but you are fostering every day. She is becoming exactly who she was meant to be. We will think of you all tomorrow and the days to follow. Your strength will help give her the power of truly free speech.Lost and Foundhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15355735805187740437noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1852496254093254902.post-18760999764782578512008-10-13T08:18:00.000-07:002008-10-13T08:18:00.000-07:00I pray for a good outcome for QuiQui's surgery - a...I pray for a good outcome for QuiQui's surgery - and I'll work on a fun pair of pants for her as a "mending" present. Strength to all three of you.Mom-of-Beanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11280697372083621634noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1852496254093254902.post-33274112823008308132008-10-13T07:34:00.000-07:002008-10-13T07:34:00.000-07:00I will be thinking of QQ, you and Mike. I hope he...I will be thinking of QQ, you and Mike. I hope her surgery is quick, straightforward, and as uncomplicated as possible. <BR/><BR/>It is so good that she is here with her family who love her to wake up to afterwards with a great doc to do it too. I know it will still be very hard and scary for all of you, but you and QQ can do this. I'll be sending you all of my good wishes right now.Tamarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04549276862024962479noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1852496254093254902.post-79343122107416815602008-10-13T04:37:00.000-07:002008-10-13T04:37:00.000-07:00Whn Kerri was only home a few short months, she go...Whn Kerri was only home a few short months, she got very ill and had to be hospitalized. They did all sorts of atrocious things to her, like stuffing tubes down her nose and throat (all the while telling me to hold her down because she was fighting them). It was the hardest thing I ever did. I wanted to kill the doctors and nurses that were doing this to her. Yet I knew they were helping her and was grateful at the same time. I cried more than she did.<BR/>I thought Kerri would distrust me and hate me and that our bonding process would be impacted. And Kerri was mad at me for a little bit, but then had no choice but to turn to me for comfort. That week we spent in the hospital together really brought us closer (out of desperation maybe) and Kerri emerged from her stay knowing she was loved and that Mommy never left her side.<BR/>Flynn is a survivor and she will get through this and the following plastic surgery too. Kids are resilient and stronger than we sometimes give them credit for. And she will still be beautiful, still smile, and her personality will come shining through again once the pain subsides. And I know you love her just the way she is, but really, she will still be Flynn, and although she will look different, she will still be beautiful, just in a different looking way. I think she will love reading someday about how much you loved her just the way she was. And I hope you pass down your gifts to your daughter!Vivian Mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14901008350652019275noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1852496254093254902.post-48974148384497612792008-10-12T20:28:00.000-07:002008-10-12T20:28:00.000-07:00Oh, and I love the story of your first kiss! So b...Oh, and I love the story of your first kiss! So beautiful!Mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11174671099436752890noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1852496254093254902.post-39153342761352385372008-10-12T20:26:00.000-07:002008-10-12T20:26:00.000-07:00You wouldn't be human if you weren't worried about...You wouldn't be human if you weren't worried about this. But I am certain that it will truly be okay. Even if it does set back the bonding a little (and I'm not saying it necessarily will - many, many people talk about how it actually brought their children closer to them when they went through something like this) - it's just a matter of time before you'll have what you have now, and then some. This whole thing is a slow build -a process - and her trust in you, your knowledge of her- the amazing love between you three - it only gets stronger and stronger with time. An operation might stall that momentarily, but I promise you that you will all get through it and be better than ever in no time at all. <BR/><BR/>In the beginning, there was some relief for me in the fact that FF had already had all her major surgeries before we met her. But now I would give my eye teeth to be able to go back in time and be there for her. She spent a month in the hospital - pretty much alone. And consequently, her fear of doctors and anything to do with the medical environment is profound and crippling. You will be there for QQ - you will be there to comfort her and help her through and to let her know that she's loved. And that is such a gift for you both. <BR/><BR/>Hang in there. We're all thinking of you and your beautiful, beautiful girl. It won't be easy - but I know you can do it.Mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11174671099436752890noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1852496254093254902.post-40916636010245021162008-10-12T20:10:00.000-07:002008-10-12T20:10:00.000-07:00I have been so consumed with my own feelings and p...I have been so consumed with my own feelings and preparations that I have not checked in. I just realized that our babies are having surgery on the same day....many miles apart! QQ will be in my thoughts and prayers. Praying their smiles stay beautiful!!! Hugs to you all!Margaret Mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15243421179418992510noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1852496254093254902.post-28735115338378765672008-10-12T19:53:00.000-07:002008-10-12T19:53:00.000-07:00What can I say but she is a sweetie... you are luc...What can I say but she is a sweetie... you are lucky parents to have her... and yep, those eyes really do smile...Fliss and Mike Adventureshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07480895260275801501noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1852496254093254902.post-8278917137345556422008-10-12T19:50:00.000-07:002008-10-12T19:50:00.000-07:00I understand -- we still haven't taken Bennett in ...I understand -- we still haven't taken Bennett in for circumcision, we're too upset by the thought of him hurting.<BR/><BR/>She will thank you for the rest of her life for helping her eat and speak and yes, smile with confidence. Hang in there, Mom!polkadothttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16240347480458703647noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1852496254093254902.post-20064804214020133062008-10-12T18:38:00.000-07:002008-10-12T18:38:00.000-07:00(((HUGS))) For what it's worth, when my girls went...(((HUGS))) For what it's worth, when my girls went through medical issues, the bonding only got stronger. Sydney had open heart surgery soon after we got home with her and, while I had the same fears the you expressed, she actually grew closer to us while in the hospital.Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00695889208110488035noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1852496254093254902.post-58600683645394901602008-10-12T18:17:00.000-07:002008-10-12T18:17:00.000-07:00Don't worry about disrupting her attachment to you...Don't worry about disrupting her attachment to you. She is bonded with Gorilla Glue.Even over the computer we can all see this. I was very uneasy about this as well and when the time came YaYa showed absolutely no sign of retreating or of questioning what I was doing at all. She was more interested in visiting the nurses and your QQ will be too. <BR/>Cavatica said it so beautifully and truly. You will all amaze each other! Now go think about something completely different before you drive yourself mad. This may be a good time to learn to knit. More bolstering and empathy from your devoted fan and friend in the North. xooxoox...sarahthefantastichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01277370396349382923noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1852496254093254902.post-61724859487482940902008-10-12T18:11:00.000-07:002008-10-12T18:11:00.000-07:00Mike, it will workout all right. She is going to h...Mike, it will workout all right. She is going to have a proceedure that will give her and you access to her thoughts. How wonderful is that? Also, she has so much love and comfort from the both of you, that she will reach out to you both when in pain. I totally understand your feelings. You are both wonderful parents. She is not alone in China having this done. She has the comfort and love of her parents to guide her through this.<BR/><BR/>{{HUGS}}Yolihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06068063513978782703noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1852496254093254902.post-1110255976687772302008-10-12T16:50:00.000-07:002008-10-12T16:50:00.000-07:00She will show you the way. This I believe about y...She will show you the way. This I believe about your QQ. You'll know just what to do when the time comes. Unfortunately for now you only have uncertainty because the time isn't there yet. But trust her. She will show you and you will know what to do to make it right for her.Cavaticahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02318305648322145681noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1852496254093254902.post-70292907682475057822008-10-12T13:42:00.000-07:002008-10-12T13:42:00.000-07:00(((Hug)) my friend.Your daughter will amaze you wi...(((Hug)) my friend.<BR/><BR/>Your daughter will amaze you with her strength. When she wakes up you and mike will be there to give her comfort.A Beautiful Messhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06743224608400210594noreply@blogger.com