tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1852496254093254902.post7233290374408932977..comments2023-10-29T08:39:53.924-07:00Comments on Wanderer's Daughter: Gift wrappedMaiahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17149615417507090988noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1852496254093254902.post-11847655655373311072008-10-02T18:24:00.000-07:002008-10-02T18:24:00.000-07:00She has beauty from within and on the outside and ...She has beauty from within and on the outside and it shines.<BR/><BR/>I get this, though. We get a lot of questions about Bing-Bing's eye and I wonder when they will become old for her?Cavaticahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02318305648322145681noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1852496254093254902.post-39532601793022469952008-10-02T12:23:00.000-07:002008-10-02T12:23:00.000-07:00What a beautiful post. Well said. Flynn is absol...What a beautiful post. Well said. Flynn is absolutely gorgeous!<BR/><BR/>We just got home from China with our son, Ty. He has a cleft palate and repaired cleft lip. He is the cutest and funniest little guy...and perfect in our eyes. I think many times people focus on the "defect" and not the internal beauty of the child. We don't even think about Ty's cleft issues.Rubber Ducky Chronicleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10200900876930029766noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1852496254093254902.post-76664432742908839702008-10-01T10:01:00.000-07:002008-10-01T10:01:00.000-07:00What an amazing post. And she is truly beautiful....What an amazing post. And she is truly beautiful.Juliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02290665623848121695noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1852496254093254902.post-76104539471237167752008-09-30T18:20:00.000-07:002008-09-30T18:20:00.000-07:00It is so strange that what you write here is exact...It is so strange that what you write here is exactly what I have thought looking at her. I'm not her mother, but part of me has felt a little, almost, scared? about her upcoming surgery and I couldn't put my finger on why- and now I understand. I think I'll grieve a little of exactly what you talk about here- that first face, her perfect face- the face we have all come to love- though I know, just as you do, that it is her spirit that makes it so beautiful. You are in no way biased Maia. She is absolutely beautiful.<BR/><BR/>I got so choked up reading this. I am certain, because of the kind of parents you and Mike are, she will be humble of spirit- and I trust that she will celebrate these pictures in the same way you have taken them! I think our self image is fostered by the love we are surrounded by, and she has SUCH solid footing on that.<BR/><BR/>Her smile may change a little on the outside, but it will still be radiating the same way- through those eyes, through her whole face, that just lights up like the rising sun...kitchuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03907460384010952009noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1852496254093254902.post-22724409103216925362008-09-30T17:16:00.000-07:002008-09-30T17:16:00.000-07:00Maia, our surgeon was all about the "cosmetics" wh...Maia, our surgeon was all about the "cosmetics" when we went in, talked like we were not going to be happy unless one would "never know" there had been anything "wrong" with her face. And then she handed my 11-month-old daughter a copy of people magazine (sadly, I'm not joking). I almost choked. But I kept my mouth shut because she has the best reputation in town for this type of surgery, and has done dozens of cleft missions, so she's got the best resume. Of COURSE I want her to do the best job possible on Flynn, duh,...but not for my sake, and not because she could be any more beautiful "with help". She is beautiful now. Period.Maiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17149615417507090988noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1852496254093254902.post-9871046792577712612008-09-30T16:29:00.000-07:002008-09-30T16:29:00.000-07:00Ah, such a wonderful post. Thank you! I met FF a...Ah, such a wonderful post. Thank you! I met FF after she had her surgery, so this version of her face is the one I first fell for, but I remember when we took her in to meet her surgeon here, and she said, "So, I bet you want to know whether or not I can get rid of those scars!" And I was like, "Wha- huh, now?"<BR/><BR/>I mean, I know that there are probably a lot of people who come in to her overly concerned about the scars, or the asymmetry, or whatever, on their children's faces, and of course I understand the desire to want to help your kid "fit in" and avoid being teased... but I just think that the attitude of the parents, and the parents' ability to communicate to their kids just how beautiful they really are, means so much more. No one is "perfect" in the sense that American society generally likes to think of perfection - but our daughters? They are perfect in a much more visceral, real, sense of the word. And I am glad that Flynn has parents who recognize that beauty. <BR/><BR/>I have two huge boxes of clothes I'm getting ready to send you guys. I keep finding more things that FF has grown out of!Mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11174671099436752890noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1852496254093254902.post-4071755611654659342008-09-30T15:53:00.000-07:002008-09-30T15:53:00.000-07:00I read the other post first, and was about to post...I read the other post first, and was about to post a comment about how beautiful she is-and then I read this. She is absolutely lovely, no qualifications. ~lmclisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13643921479273054853noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1852496254093254902.post-11773278400565924342008-09-30T15:37:00.000-07:002008-09-30T15:37:00.000-07:00Maia, she is a beautiful child. She also has an au...Maia, she is a beautiful child. She also has an aura about her of sweetness. Her eyes draw you in completely. Nothing will take away what is QQ.Yolihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06068063513978782703noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1852496254093254902.post-73820733048916821432008-09-30T11:18:00.000-07:002008-09-30T11:18:00.000-07:00it's funny how perfect they are even when they hav...it's funny how perfect they are even when they have what society deems a defect. I missed 'lumpy' when it was removed...I missed it because it was part of my daughter...it was the reason she was placed with us...so to see it go was kind of bettersweet. <BR/>When a closr family member saw a photo of lumpy they remarked that it was 'gross'...how can any part of my daughter be gross??? I was stunned! So alien to me that someone could say that about any part of my child.<BR/>So I understand, I do...because our children are perfect to us just the way they are...Snowflowers Mumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01543028816090710198noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1852496254093254902.post-25969853230814385922008-09-30T10:19:00.000-07:002008-09-30T10:19:00.000-07:00A point of view from some young & objective ey...A point of view from some young & objective eyes:<BR/><BR/>I didn't say anything to B about her having a cleft lip before we came over last week, and he didn't say a word to me about it during or after our visit. He just plain accepted her as she is.Jhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15209953476958023410noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1852496254093254902.post-66640369764832950082008-09-30T09:23:00.000-07:002008-09-30T09:23:00.000-07:00touching words. and you are right, she was create...touching words. and you are right, she was created in perfection. it is sad that our society has such a narrow, unnattainable, flawed perception of beauty. flynn is beautiful through and through.Tishhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05025104225794869065noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1852496254093254902.post-89020695277021225412008-09-30T08:23:00.000-07:002008-09-30T08:23:00.000-07:00Its not just you, Biased Mama. She just radiates ...Its not just you, Biased Mama. She just radiates beauty. Her eyes are so wonderful and her wide cleft grin is so expressive. You hit the baby jackpot right there!<BR/><BR/>Cute-alicious!<BR/>Adorable-tastic!<BR/><BR/>In Mexico, a friend of ours calls our daughter "Lina Bonita Preciosa Maravillosa Princessa Belleza Corazon." Maybe you should go with something like that?Mamacitahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02962518466166496679noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1852496254093254902.post-79942774651152166032008-09-30T08:10:00.000-07:002008-09-30T08:10:00.000-07:00True beauty goes beyond the cosmetic changes or th...True beauty goes beyond the cosmetic changes or the "flaws" humankind thinks as imperfections. True beauty comes from within. And there is something in Flynn's eyes, her smile, and I am sure her personality that makes her truly beautiful. She will learn this from you, and hopefully you can instill in her the self confidence and self esteem she will need in her tween years, to rise above peer pressure or society's expectations of what she "should" look, dress or act like. <BR/>You are definately her Mama, and somehow destiny made it possible for the right child and the right couple to come together to form the right family for each other. It's always amazing how that happens!Vivian Mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14901008350652019275noreply@blogger.com